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Do we need to install locks on our pantry? What do we say to set boundaries without compromising this friendship?
At a Loss
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In your case, merely reacting naturally might have delivered the message you are struggling with now.
For instance, you are surprised by your neighbours scarfing your chicken. You say, no are you really eating the chicken I left on the counter? That was for our dinner tomorrow! this point, you will have to say (to the parents), tried hinting about it and joking about it, but now I just have to tell you: I really don like it when you guys help yourselves to our food without asking. I would never do that at your house, and I teaching the girls to respect these boundaries, too. people buy canada goose jacket don mind having an door where people sashay in. You do mind it (I do, too), and so you will have to be clear about it.
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At My Wits End
Dear Wits End: Your husband worries that you won see your daughter if she moves out, but according to you, she lives with you and you still don see her.
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